With dating in the Western world looking bleaker than ever, many men have started to consider taking their romantic lives abroad. Between pink haired feminists, an obesity epidemic, and a generally adversarial climate between men and women, this should come as no surprise. The good news is that Eastern Europe remains a goldmine if you want to find a thin, feminine, beautiful woman for dating or even marriage. Today, we’re sharing 5 of our most unexpected tips for meeting hot Eastern European women.
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Look Good, But Don’t Be Vain!
In 2020, there’s no excuse for looking like a slob. If you think you’re gonna rock up to Ukraine wearing shabby clothing and have girls chasing you through the streets of Kiev, you’re dead wrong.
I encourage every man looking to date finely tune his wardrobe and spend some thought on his clothing, hairstyle, and physique.
That being said, while you can take this “overboard” in the United States and women won’t care, Eastern European women dislike this behavior.
Fixing your hair in a window, taking too long to get ready, and not wanting to get your hands dirty are all things that most Eastern European girls will refer to as “gay.” As such, I’d encourage you to be conscious of how you look. But, not to the point where it’s extremely noticeable.
I’ve made this mistake more than a few times, unfortunately. And, the hot Eastern European women I’ve dated have punished me for it.
Just recently, I had a girlfriend and her friend at my house. I had just come back from the gym, so I had to take a shower before we all went out on the town. I took about 30 minutes to get ready. I took my time in the shower, and both of them thought it was somewhat bizarre.
“What took you so long?” my girlfriend asked me.
“That’s how long girls take to get ready,” her friend said with a smile.
It was a slight neg on her part. I responded by simply saying “Yeah, it’s because I’m a girl. Can’t you tell by my big muscles?” At this point, I lifted up my sleeve flexed my arm, winking at both of them sarcastically.
They both smiled at each other, giggling like little girls.
If you haven’t already noticed, that was a test. I passed it with flying colors.
Learn To Pass Some Brutal Shit Tests
Let me start this off by saying I absolutely hate the term “shit test.”
It sounds gross, and is a misleading title. We can thank the internet for that!
A better alternative is to refer to them as “bullshit tests.” This title far better describes what is actually happening.
A bullshit test is when a woman does something that she knows upsets you deliberately, simply to see how you will react. She does this as a means of “testing” you, or seeing what you’re really made of.
In other words, it’s a test for how you are going to deal with her “bullshit.”
Women do this as a way of subconsciously reassessing the integrity of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It’s through these tests that men who fake the image of being a tough guy are found out. While you can parade around and talk about how you’re a strong, centered man, your true character will be revealed when a girl “tests” you.
Let’s look to the above example of when I took 30 minutes to get ready. Before this, I had just come back from the gym, and I told them to wait for me in the lobby of my apartment until I arrived home.
I didn’t care if they wanted to wait or not, and when we arrived at my apartment, I told the girl I was dating to do the dishes.
Yes: you can do this with hot Eastern European women. No, I’m not joking.
I was putting off the image of being a strong, self interested man who was happy to see the girls, but was more concerned with myself my daily activities than seeing them.
Counterintuitively, this is something that simultaneously can make a woman feel somewhat insecure, and yet also motivate her to want to please you buy doing things like washing your dishes.
Communication with women is largely subtextual. They are constantly analyzing your behaviors to see if they match your words. Unlike men (who often just listen to the words a woman says and ignore her actions), women are constantly on the lookout for incongruence, and guys who are fakers.
By telling the girls to wait for me and instructing one to do a small domestic chore, I was subtextually communicating to them that I’m not afraid of making them mad and them leaving. Therefore I must be a man with choices of other women to hang out with.
At the very least, it highlights that I’m confident that I can easily find other girls to hang out with, presumably those who would actually do the things I ask them to do. Lastly, it communicates that I’m therefore a man who other women have not hesitated to wait on and clean for in the past.
As a result, the girls wanted to throw a playful jab at me my insinuating I was being feminine, and therefore incongruent in my behaviors.
Now, let’s talk about how to pass these little games that women play.
Passing bullshit tests
Learning to pass bullshit tests is a lifelong skill that you will literally use until the day you die when interacting with women.
I used to method of “agree and amplify” to pass the above mentioned example. When doing this, you essentially agree with whatever negative character trait a person is insinuating about you, and then take it to the next level.
Essentially, I was saying “Fuck you. Look how incorrect you are because of how unmoved I am by your words.”
This throws people off, making them realize that their words generally have no impact on you, and that you are so confident and self assured that you are actually willing to self-deprecate (ever so slightly) to prove them wrong.
On the converse, imagine if I had meekly said “Guys need time to get ready too!” and shuffled away.
It would have confirmed her insinuating that my above actions were not indeed my genuine self. But, they are. Therefore, I passed.
Even in long term relationships in the USA, a woman will throw a test your way, just to see how well you handle it. This is not something that I believe women do consciously, but rather as a biological instinct to ensure you’re a strong man who can protect her from outside threats.
If you want to learn more about passing bullshit tests, I highly suggest reading the work of Heartiste.
Develop an Iron Frame: Essential For Dating Hot Eastern European Women
Ahh yes, frame. Most of you are probably asking yourself “What is frame?” and for that reason, I’ll reference social psychologist Rollo Tomassi.
“In psych terms, frame is an often subconscious, mutually acknowledged personal narrative under which auspices people will be influenced. One’s capacity for personal decisions, choices for well-being, emotional investments, religious beliefs and political persuasions (amongst many others) are all influenced and biased by the psychological narrative ‘framework’ under which we are most apt to accept as normalcy.”
Frame is simple. In its most basic terms, the frame is held by the one is leading an interaction between two people. When you go to work, you enter the frame of your boss. At university, you are entering the frame of your professor. At the home of your parents, you are likely entering into the frame of your father. Or, in an imbalanced relationship, your mother.
The person in control of the frame is the individual who is deferred to, and who’s opinions are taken into account above those of others. It is he who “wears the pants” in the relationship who is in control of the frame.
Despite what a woman may say, unless she is truly the most hardline, intersectional feminist who has some serious control issues, women enjoy being in the frame of a man they respect.
Think of the common example of asking a girl “where do you want to go to eat?” She freezes up, being unable to come to a decision, and generally getting uncomfortable and weird.
Men who get upset at this do not understand the concept of frame.
This is exactly what happens when a woman feels she is forced to take control of the frame. As the man, you should already know where you’re going to eat. She’s lucky to be coming along.
Women enjoy believing that they are being “looked after” and that someone who is stronger, and therefore making the best possible decisions for them.
Notice how the concept of bullshit tests and frame don’t seem all that different from one another? It’s because they are not. In reality, passing bullshit tests highlights just how strong your frame really is.
In feminized, American society, women will deal with, and often even marry guys who they secretly believe are losers who can’t hold the frame. This leaves them sexually frustrated, and generally quite miserable, despite how “empowered” they may feel. Again, similar to bullshit tests, frame is not something that women are always psychologically conscious of, but you can bet your life that it’s still an all-important aspect of a successful relationship.
In Eastern Europe? You must train yourself to hold the frame. While you can certainly work on it and improve your skills as you start dating Eastern European women, this is one skill who’s importance can’t be denied.
Rome wasn’t built in a day. Neither will your ability to hold the frame.
To be totally upfront, my ability to hold the frame was less than stellar when I first came to Ukraine in 2011. But, as I began dating women who expected me to do so, I quickly adapted. I now find myself able to handle some of the feistiest women in Europe.
In the end, learning to establish frame, pass bullshit tests, and be willing to get your hands dirty will often lead you towards leaning in one particular direction on the political spectrum…
Develop right wing political beliefs
Now, I know this may sound weird to you, but hear me out…
Most people who live in Eastern Europe are on the political right wing. It goes without saying that things like gay marriage, multiculturalism, and this whole “transgender” thing are frowned upon in Eastern Europe.
Women are women, and men are men. That’s all there is to it.
While some young women (particularly those who are college aged and living in a large city) may have more progressive views, this is mostly not the case.
As a result, if you’re a man who is going on dates with Eastern European girls and talking about the virtues of open borders and feminism, she’s probably going to think something is wrong with you.
Now, if you meet a freaky feminist with pink hair that looks like fun, say whatever the hell you want. But overall, Eastern European culture is politically far right. You’re not doing your love life any favors by rebelling against it.
Remember: Eastern Europe is like how America was in the 1950’s. Picture the way your grandfather interacted with your grandmother when they were first meeting, or how Don Draper acts in the TV show Mad Men.
That’s what you’re going for in a situation like this.
Avoiding criticizing the local culture, but be realistic about what it is
Now, I know you’re probably thinking “Yeah duh,” in regards to saying anything negative about the local culture of a country you visit.
But, it’s important to realize that you still must be honest about what’s happening in the country.
For example, in a country like Ukraine, you look pretty silly if all you talk about is “how great everything is” and “how much you love it.”
Girls in these countries are not stupid. They realize that their country is economically depressed beyond belief and in bad shape. Deny this, and you look inauthentic at best. At worst, you look oblivious.
Granted, many of them love their culture, and their customs, but many are sick of the political and economic situation that’s taking place. This is why it’s important to be selectively critical of what you see in Eastern Europe.
For example, when I first began dating an old girlfriend in Eastern Europe, she notified me that her brother “watches over” her to make sure she’s not “running around with bad guys.” She showed me a picture of her brother, who was about 19 years old and built like a twig.
Obviously, he does not look like he does too well with the ladies. He’s definitely not stopping any “bad guys” from hanging out with his sister, either.
I immediately laughed. I poked fun at her brother and said he’s probably just jealous that he’s not getting any girls. I told her she can tell him where to find me and we can talk all he wants. Blah blah. The list goes on.
Much to my surprise, she actually started to cry. I was definitely a bit too aggressive with that one. Though I don’t regret doing it, I wouldn’t suggest other guys do the same thing.
Then again, there are other times when your criticism of Eastern European customs is not just welcomed, but necessary to look like a normal person.
One time when I was appropriately critical was when a girl took me onto a mini-bus known as a marchutka. We paid roughly 12 cents to ride the bus across town, while being squashed in with 30 other people like a can of sardines.
When we got off the bus, I immediately started remarking at how hilariously awful the bus ride was. Don’t get me wrong, I certainly enjoyed it in a weird way. But, I also find it ridiculous that this is how awful the Ukrainian public transportation system is.
She smiled and just said, “Yeah…it’s Ukraine.” We both laughed and continued our date.
This is an example of when being critical of the country would be useful. Nobody wants to be squashed into a Soviet-era bus, including your new love interest. The fact that you’re honest about it is far better than if you talk about “what an enriching cultural experience” it was.
Conclusion – Dating Eastern European Women Is Worth It!
If this sounds like a lot to you, I encourage you not to fret. Many men find that the process of dating Eastern European women is a fantastic way to rediscover the masculinity that Western society has conditioned out of them by design.
While myself and many others have taken the plunge to relocating to Eastern Europe, you can start chatting with Eastern European girls from the comfort of your own home today.
Online dating has opened up a whole world of possibilities for those looking to explore Eastern Europe and it’s women.
If you’re even slightly curious what Eastern European girls are like, I highly suggest you check out this website.
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